Have you tried limiting the engine speed when operating the hoe? It will decrease the hydraulic flow which will slow the movement speed in the hoe. You will still have the power, just with less speed.
If you want to maintain the speed of the stick and dipper and only want to slow the swing, add an orifice fitting between the swing valve and swing cylinder.
Drill out the orifice until you get a swing speed you like.
Alternatively, you could install a flow control valve in place of the orifice fitting. You can then adjust the valve to get a speed you like.
Costs will be around $10 for an orifice fitting and near $50 for a flow control valve.
I added a flow control valve to my 4 in 1 bucket. Without variable flow in my Aux circuit, the bucket was too hard to control with the engine throttled up.